Dating people with disabilities
People with disabilities often find it hard to date as many people have the wrong views about dating a person with disabilities. Online dating has opened up the world of dating to people with disabilities and if you find yourself attracted to such a person, it is important that you are able to deal with some issues that may arise as a result of your date's disability.
Depending on the type of disability that your date has, it is important to find out more and read widely about the disability especially if you do not know much about the subject. It is advisable that you don't bring the issue up, especially if it is your first date. It is better to let your date bring it up and then you can ask intelligent questions based on knowledge as opposed to rumor and common misconceptions which can be offensive. Seek to understand, rather than idle curiosity or treating the person like a freak show. It is important that the timing is right so that you seem interested in the person as a whole rather than just the aspect of the disability.
It is important also to adjust your expectations as pertains to some things that relate to your relationship. For example if your date is in a wheelchair and you love to go for extreme sports activities, you may have to find a middle ground so that you do not feel like you cannot do what you love or the other person does not feel guilty as if they were keeping you from what you love to do. One of the things you can do is find activities in which you can share and take part in as a couple. You may also learn new activities from each other and push each other to do stuff that ordinarily you wouldn't. This will help to expand your mind and make you a better person.
It is important that you know how to deal with any emotional issues that will arise from your date's disability. People with disabilities may have experienced some discrimination overtly or subtly or they may have had little or no independence or they may have insecurities that stem from their disability. It is important that you are sensitive and reassure your date so they are able to deal with the negative feelings properly. There are also disabled people who may be fiercely independent such that they will not receive any kind of help to prove that they are not a burden. It is important that you stay positive and allow them to be independent but offer your help, without being condescending so that your date understands that you know they are independent but would like to help once in a while.
Disabled people are fun, interesting, intelligent and attractive. You can successfully have a long term relationship with a disabled person as long as you keep an open mind, have lots of fun and be adaptable. Who knows, you may be able to find lasting love.
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